And the Lord God said, “It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.” Gen 2:18
From the beginning, God identified a need in the man, even before the man himself felt it.
God said it is “…not good that a man should be alone”.
What does it mean to be alone?
To be ‘alone’ means to be separate , to be by itself.
It also means without the presence of another.
It was God who declared that it was not good for the man to be alone.
It is not good for the man to be by himself.
It is not good for the man to be without the presence of another.
God does not want your husband to be alone, that is why He has brought you into his life.
“Two can accomplish more than twice as much as one, for the results can be much better. If one falls, the other pulls him up; but if a man falls when he is alone, he’s in trouble.
Also on a cold night, two under the same blanket gain warmth from each other, but how can one be warm alone?
And one standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer; three is even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken.” Eccl. 4:9-11 (Living Bible)
Dear sister, is your husband alone?
Is he alone in taking decisions that will affect the future of the family?
Don’t get me wrong, you’re not supposed to argue with him because it is his responsibility as the leader of the family to take decisions on behalf of the family. But, are you holding up his hand via counsel and prayer?
Are you constantly watching over his desires and decisions in the place of prayer or have you left him alone?
You might be thinking, “Since he is the head and it is his responsibility, let him decide”. Is that your excuse?
Have you forgotten that his decision will affect you and the children?
Is your husband alone at his work place?
Do you spend time with him to know how his day went?
Yes I know you also went to work or rather, you were busy at home with the house chores and all this has made you very tired. Yet if you’re not part of his life, you will not know when he is about to fall or when he needs your help.
There is also something important to note:
“… again if two lie down together…” (NKJV)
‘…. Also, on a cold night, two under the same blanket gain warmth from each other…” Living Bible
Are you under the same blanket with your husband?
Do you both listen to the same preacher and the same messages?
Do you share the same belief about God?
Are you both under the influence and control of God?
The bible says ‘Two under the same blanket…”
If your husband is not under God’s blanket, then your work is more.
The greatest security of every army is to have a strong leader that can see ahead and anticipate the strategy of the enemy, then make plans to defeat them.
The same goes for the home. Your home is only as strong as the person leading it.
Before you ask if your husband is under God’s blanket, you must first ask yourself if you are under God’s blanket.
Does God own and control you?
Do you live solely to bring God pleasure and glory?
When you are under God’s blanket, He will show you, through submission and prayer, how you can bring your husband under God’s blanket, too.
Remember, one may be overpowered but two can still stand. Yet, a family with God at the apex can never be defeated.
Dear sister, obedience to God is the basis for a secure eternity.
It is not just about your home now. It is about the fact that your actions now will affect the choice of your eternal home.
Your husband may not deserve a wife that looks out for him and prays for him because of his attitude and character, but God demands absolute obedience to his instructions and his command.
Your husband may be unreasonable, yet God says he should not be alone.
Whatever the peculiarity of your home is, go to God who alone re-writes stories and repair mistakes.
Go to God who gives the courage and strength to undertake the journey and play your role.
Do not wait for husband to change before you start obeying the Bible.
Don’t wait for him to apologize before you start doing your duties. So that you will not give the devil the chance to intrude into your home.
Go to God (in prayer) who can work it in you, both to will and to do of His good pleasure and you shall surely over come in Jesus Name.